Straight talk for senior adopters

The older we get, the more we need a backup plan for our dogs, in the event of our deaths.


I was volunteering at my local animal shelter one day when the loudspeaker in the kennel area blared, “Kennel attendant for a dog adoption tour, please.” I went to the lobby and was introduced to a couple who, I’m guessing, were in their mid- to late 70s. I was told that they were there to meet a couple of the younger German Shepherd Dogs we had on the adoption row.

My expression probably froze for a moment, but then I put a smile on. “We have a bunch of German Shepherds and GSD-mixes right now,” I told them. “But every single one of them is a big, untrained adolescent! Are you sure you want to deal with such a big, bouncy dog?” I said it with as light a tone as I could muster, but I was concerned. These people did not look particularly strong or agile.

The husband barely acknowledged me, but the wife smiled and said, “Oh yes. We’ve had nothing but German Shepherds our whole lives. We love the breed, and want to help one who needs a home.”

I showed them the various candidates in the adoption kennels, and then a shelter employee took over, taking various dogs to meet them in the big runs outside. I left soon after, so I don’t know which – if any – of the big, strong dogs we had available for adoption they took home. But I’ve thought about the encounter many times over the past few years. It struck me as very unwise, and not particularly self-aware, that the couple would be seeking the same sort of dog they had owned throughout their younger years. I’m super experienced with stressed, large, untrained dogs who haven’t gotten out of their tiny kennels for a week, and, at 20 years younger than the couple, even I get knocked around a fair amount by those dogs in the first sessions we spend together. Even on the occasions when I’ve taken a big rowdy adolescent dog home to foster, it can take weeks or even months to teach them to control their exuberant bodies in the face of exciting stimuli.

When I admitted, a year ago, that one of the reasons I was hesitating over the decision of whether to adopt my youngest dog, Boone, when he was an adorable but thick-legged, big-pawed foster puppy of completely unknown parentage, this encounter with the senior couple was on my mind. I’ll be 60 years old this year – and, with luck, will be 75 or so when the puppy is a senior dog. I had to think about it long and hard: Did I really want to age into my retirement years with another dog who might mature into 70 or more pounds? (Of course, I did adopt that adorable puppy – and, fortunately, it looks like he will top out at about 50 pounds. I can still lift 50 pounds fairly easily, so if he’s ever sick or needs to be lifted in and out of the car, after ACL surgery, say, I can do that!)

Managing the physical size and exercise needs of a big dog is not the only potential challenge for older people adopting a dog. It’s tough to think about, but it’s a reality that people in their senior years are more prone to illnesses or injuries that render them unable to care for their dogs than younger adopters. If you inquire at your local shelter, I will bet folding money that they can point out several dogs who are there solely because their owners passed away without making arrangements for someone else to take the dogs in. In my opinion, it’s irresponsible and selfish to adopt dogs without having a backup plan – and perhaps even money set aside – for our dogs in case of our deaths.

The worst-case scenarios involve dogs whose owners died without making “in case of my death” arrangements for them, and who are completely unprepared for life in any other home. At the shelter, I’ve cared for several dogs who had never been off their property or been touched by humans other than their original (now deceased) owners. The shock and grief experienced by these dogs is awful to witness – and made worse by the fact that, in their shocked and shut-down state, it’s difficult to find someone who will give them another chance at a happy life and adopt them.

Don’t get me wrong: I can’t imagine living without a dog, ever. And I am not saying that we shouldn’t have dogs in our senior years, or even our very last days. I’m just saying that we owe the dogs we take responsibility for the same care and consideration that an owner of any age should have for their dogs. We need to have a solid plan in place for who will take them in the event of our deaths – and perhaps even a backup plan in case the first plan falls through. And we need to be able to fully care for, exercise, and train them, so that, if we are suddenly called away from this earth, our beloved dogs are healthy, socialized to others, and well behaved, so they will be welcome and cherished, not unhappy burdens, to their new owners.


    • Totally.

      Know of an older (late 70’s)single woman planning on two standard size poodle puppies because she’s ‘always had them’. Argh. Recipe for disaster but no way to reach her, she’s determined. So upsetting.

      • I totally agree. I had friends who were in there 80’s when they decided to look for a German Shepard because they had always had one. I asked them how would they handle such a large dog but they were determined. I took them to see a two year old and had them both walk the dog. It became apparent that the wife was not going to be able to handle him as she was going to be the main caretaker. They decided not to take the dog.

  1. I recently turned 70. My current small dog is 13 yo. I have money set aside in my will for her and with no dog lovers in my family, I have arranged for her to go to her foster mom (who is now about my age) should I pass before her. None of this feels ideal. I would love a WDJ article outlining various care options for seniors wanting to do right by their dogs. Important topic, thanks for bringing it up.

  2. Your article makes important points, and I’m glad WDJ is raising the issue. A follow-up article might cover possible options for people to consider. And, for younger folks, remember that things happen. You’re never too young for “legacy” planning for pups!

  3. 100% agree!

    All of my pets are in my will (I confirm with their potential care givers every year). Each pet comes with funds for their care and I keep detailed veterinary records.

    Thank you for writing this very important article!

  4. Great article. WDJ has previously published a related article that discusses many options for senior dog owners. Search the site for “Spending the Golden Years with Dogs.”

    It is tragic that pets who have known a loving home all their lives end up in shelters when the owner dies or becomes incapacitated. Note that all it takes is a car accident to create this scenario with a younger pet owner. I think many people are so averse to facing their own mortality, they refuse to consider the possibility and don’t plan for it. Tragically, senior pets end up spending their remaining lives in a cage, with no treatment for their senior ailments, because so many adopters are reluctant to adopt senior animals.

  5. My husband and I are almost 70 and lost out 12 yr old dog to cancer. We have had herding dog mixes most of our married lives. We took many of these ideas into consideration before adopting Cody- he was supposed to be a Heeler/BC mix according to the rescue. At 4 months and 40 pounds we questioned his parentage. We have since discovered he is both those breeds plus Golden Retriever. He is now 7 months and attending training classes. Other than bruising issues when he had his puppy teeth he has been an easy dog to train. We walk several times a day, have a large fenced yard and a dog door. He can come and go as needed. We have an 11yo dog who plays with him and helps to correct him as needed. We work with Cody on watching our feet as we walk and on stairs he must go down before us on command. Our dogs and horses will be taken care of should we pass before them but at this time, I absolutely love having an energetic puppy in the house. He has helped our older dog get over his depression of losing his lifelong friend. I wouldn’t hesitate to bring another smart dog into our home.

  6. I have had 8 Border Collies and have fostered 82 dogs so far. I don’t agree with the majority of this article, which suggests seniors aren’t capable of handling a dog. Apparently any dog because of age. Younger folks are just as likely to take a dog to a shelter than everyone else. Look at what happened during the pandemic. Shelters are over-burdened with dogs turned in by owners going back to work. Seniors have time to care for a dog, who also, incidentally prolong the senior’s life and quality of it. Years of experience in dog handling shouldn’t be ignored. These are the very people who benefit from the companionship if a dog. Never just a person by age. They are likely to have more experience and time. Not all seniors are frail and nearing death’s bed. Good grief!

    • You clearly didn’t read the article carefully. She specifically said that seniors should have dogs, but they should leave a plan in place in the event they can no longer care for them, whatever the reason. I totally agree. When my mother passed, there were a number of options for her dog, but I decided to keep him since I had cared for him the last few months of her life. And as the author also stated, EVERYONE really, young AND old, should have a plan in place for their dog (or cat) just as they would their children, should something happen.

    • Actually, Grace, fair point! I did drift a little from my first point which is that I wish people were being realistic and really thought through the size and temperament of the dogs they adopt in their senior years. I don’t think those folks who were looking at adolescent GSDs were going to be able to handle them with any joy. At best, the dog might end up with a home — but where he was outdoors 24/7, and without training that would help him become an enjoyable companion. If they had gone to GSD rescue looking for a middle-aged or senior dog, that would have made more sense to me. Or if they had been looking to adopt a smaller dog — it needn’t be a small one!

      I do think we need to look at our capabilities realistically and not just keep trying to do what we’ve always done with our dogs, because we might not be as good at handling them as we were when we were younger and stronger. Volunteering at the emergency animal shelter during the Camp Fire that burned down the town of Paradise, California, we took in DOZENS of dogs belonging to seniors (Paradise was well known as a retirement community, though of course many families lived there as well) whose dogs were undersocialized (fearful of people), overweight, had grossly long nails (could barely walk), and were filthy (had been relegated to a life outdoors); clearly their owners couldn’t really handle them anymore!

      But in contrast, I recently met some neighbors who are in their early 70s, and during the pandemic they bought a standard Poodle puppy who has developed into a very challenging big dog. But they have enrolled him in multiple classes with a positive-reinforcement-based trainer, they drive him 25 miles to a top-notch daycare so he can have regular “get it all out of your system” playdates with other dogs, and while he’s a huge handful, they are strong and active enough (they are skiiing with their grandkids as I write this!) to handle him. While he’s “more dog” than they were hoping for, handling him is well within their capabilities and they are dedicated to helping him develop into a well-mannered dog who would be very easy to re-home if anything happened to them.

      I just wanted to say, we need to be realistic when adopting — and we ALL do need to have a plan for our dogs in case of our loss.

  7. Thank you for this article, Nancy.

    I’ve had large/giant breeds my whole life. German Shepherds, Great Pyrenees, Great Dane, a Rottie, etc. My last dog was an English Shepherd who wasn’t very large – he was about 65 lbs. But tragically, he developed degenerative myelopathy, and I had to lift him into my SUV and up stairs a bit before I had to have him euthanized. I was able to do that but I’m also in my sixties and considered whether or not I could care for a large dog in the future as we aged together. So I opted to adopt my wonderful hound-mix Ranger, who weighs in at 41 lbs.

    If I am ever faced with replacing him in my life, I will absolutely adopt a senior dog. I’m a dog trainer and it always distresses me when I see thoughtless and selfish older people bringing home active puppies or dogs that physically overwhelm them.

  8. Thank you. I am 77, have a partner 74, and a 3 year old small corgi–23 lbs, that we lift in/out of her car crate, carry down the 70+ steps to our beach. We walk with her 2+ miles a day, have dog romps with another corgi her age, which saves all of us, and have trained her to a whistle recall reliable enough she is allowed to run on sand flats and chase the willing/taunting sea gull. This is the edge of what we can manage with a canine family member… grateful for the ways she keeps us active and agile–we are down on our knees in play posture as well as yoga. She’s in the will with $ attached and we have younger friends that she knows, visits overnight, and who adore her. Still, it’s a risk as well as a joy. So far, we’re good. I appreciate the article and the commentary.

  9. My current dogs, both PBGVs (around 30 lb each) are getting older and I’m in my mid-70s with some mobility issues. (I was an avid cyclist and didn’t count on the issues I now have which prevent biking.) I figure these were the last puppies (they’re now 9 and 11) I’ll get. But after one of these passes I hope I’ll be able to get an older dog as I’ve found that having two dogs makes them much happier. After all, I may try hard with them, but I can’t be a dog!

  10. Let’s hear it for adopting senior dogs! Not only do they desperately need a home, a reliable human, and a calming environment, but also they give you a mental workout to determine what they need, what they may fear (unhappily it may well be part of their past), how to gain their trust … and when the day comes when they show that they trust you (it may easily be months!) your reward is over the top. Spoken from a lifetime of breeding/training my own dogs and then c.8+ years of taking really-really seniors of 8yrs, a12yr-old, recently a 16-year-old “yorkie”! Growing old together works and giving them care, love, and comfort in their last years overcomes the inevitable pain of losing them.

    • I have adopted now three older dogs as I have aged. A lovely 12 yr old cocker had a good last year w me in spite of matastatic CA, an 8 yr old cocker shared 5 happy years w me in spite of Cushings, and now a 5 year old cocker is my good buddy. I always had big dogs in the past even including two great danes!, and now know a smaller size makes proper care best for my dog and for me.
      The senior dogs bring so much love which only enhances the shorter time spent together. Our hearts hurt when their time ends…but w love so much. It is hard for me to not have a dog and even though I miss every one of mine who is over the rainbow bridge I am not sorry for even a minute with each of them.

  11. I have adopted now three older dogs as I have aged. A lovely 12 yr old cocker had a good last year w me in spite of matastatic CA, an 8 yr old cocker shared 5 happy years w me in spite of Cushings, and now a 5 year old cocker is my good buddy. I always had big dogs in the past even including two great danes!, and now know a smaller size makes proper care best for my dog and for me.
    The senior dogs bring so much love which only enhances the shorter time spent together. Our hearts hurt when their time ends…but w love so much. It is hard for me to not have a dog and even though I miss every one of mine who is over the rainbow bridge I am not sorry for even a minute with each of them.

  12. This article assumes all people who are 70 years old are the same and they are not. While I agree that individuals of all ages should consider their own limitations prior to getting a dog, I don’t think that you should assume that the couple you describe cannot handle training and giving a home to a young German Shepard dog because of their age. In this case the woman clearly states that they have always had German Shepard dogs in their home so I would conclude that they have an understanding of what is necessary to adopt one of the dogs they are considering.

    Too many generalizations are made about people who are old these days and it is limiting to them. Each person, regardless of age, should be aware of their limitations when embarking on challenging endeavors. Please do not make assumptions about us because of our age.

  13. I also agree 100% with this article. When I was 61, we adopted an adult Standard Poodle from a poodle rescue. Ten years later, when I was 71, our dog collapsed late one night. He weighed almost 80 pounds. I couldn’t lift him so my husband (who was 83) and I gently rolled him onto a sheet to take him to the emergency vet. After our beloved poodle died, I adopted another dog. At my age, I did not want our next pet to outlive us, so three years ago I rescued a 5-year old mutt that nobody was interested in. He weighs around 35 pounds and I can easily lift him. He will be nine years old in June. We have a written contingency plan for his care in case something drastic happens to me. Thank you for the excellent article.

  14. I heartily agree with a backup plan. In 2013 we got a Shih Tzu puppy with my planned retirement and relocation in 2014. Our first plan was for our daughter (who has always had Shih Tzus and our boy got along very well with) to take him. About a year ago, they got a Cocker Spaniel puppy that is now about twice the size of our boy and extremely active. Our boy is very anxious around her, so we don’t think it will work out well. So now we need that backup plan.

    I’ve also seen a Shih Tzu breeder that if for any reason one of his pups loses his home, he will take him back. I’m pretty sure our breeder would do that also, but we’re now 3 states away.

    By the way I’m now 74, and our boy is the best companion!

  15. The points made in your article are important considerations for senior adopters. But they apply to all ages and ability levels of all adopters. No one should adopt a dog without a plan for its care in case something happens. No one should adopt a dog that is beyond their abilities. Age of course is a factor, but so are other abilities, and so is life. Anything can happen to anyone at any age and everyone should take these things into consideration when adopting. Why limit your focus to senior adopters?

    • Great points. It’s been on my mind as me and my cohort are aging, but you’re right. It would be great if everyone was realistic about their abilities and everyone had a plan for their dogs in case of the worst “what if?”

  16. Thank you for bringing up a topic that may be painful and hard to acknowledge for some

    But shelter have so many Senior dogs who need loving homes and could be perfect matches for older people

    I would love to see more shelters market their Senior Dogs To Seniors. Seniors dogs are usually calmer and much easier to handle. It could be a win win for everyone. But some people are very set in their ways about what dog they want without being realistic
    I really appreciate your article and will share it with our shelter staff to try and steer our Seniors (people) to our Seniors(Dogs!)

  17. My husband is 81 and I am 73. We have updated our wills to provide for whatever dogs we have and have someone who has agreed to adopt the dogs…..we only adopt old small dogs now. I am still fostering….old small dogs now. I adopted out a 7 year old 7 pound chi to a couple in their mid eighties. Their elderly dog had recently died (only days before) and they still had a 13 year old dog but they liked having 2 dogs. We had 2 meet and greets and all was fine. I explained that in the event of their deaths the dog needed to come back to the rescue. The husband exclaimed “there is nothing wrong with us” he was a retired medical doctor….OK. Fast forward 2 years he recently died and I have been helping the wife with the dogs. They are helping her deal with the loneliness….it is worth the effort…I would do it again. Myself…. I would not adopt out a puppy to an elderly person…..there are so many wonderful senior dogs who need loving homes and the seniors are so easy to love.

  18. This was a good article but it could have covered more ground. In my opinion it didn’t go far enough. I wish the majority of the article wasn’t focused mainly on seniors adopting puppies that turn into large, unmanageable dogs. I can understand why you brought up different points because I, myself, have thought about having to give up my dream of a golden retriever when I look for my next dog. I just thought it was unnecessary to mention these “selfish” seniors.

    I’d like to add a few points. First of all, as a senior pet owner with a now senior dog, I was happy to get an email from IDA a few days ago which was about a zoom event hosted by them with guest speaker, Leslie Daff, an attorney who deals with pet trusts and wills. It was very informative. I was already thinking about how to leave money for my dog and caregiver if anything happened to me, having already lined up a friend who is willing to take my dog, but I wasn’t sure how to go about all that it would entail. This attorney practices in California in Orange County. I think it’s important to find an attorney who’s used to dealing with pets left behind. She brought up some excellent points about medical records, grooming practices, food and current medications, your pets behavior, etc., all the fine details that you might forget to tell someone. And how important it is to have a backup plan for your backup plan.

    The second point is about pet insurance. I think all responsible pet owners should consider having it for any new pet they adopt whether they’re younger or they’re seniors. And they should make sure that insurance would be transferable to the new pet owners should something happen to them. It would place an undue burden on a new owner stepping in, especially if that pet over the years has developed certain illnesses that would be excluded or very costly without insurance. I plan to leave money for my dog and my friend to ensure that my dog’s needs will be taken care of, not to the detriment of my friend. Adopting a senior dog is a great idea for seniors, but in my case, since I’m a senior who does not have unlimited funds, I would only be able to adopt a senior dog who is considered healthy, so that I would be able to get pet insurance and not have anything excluded as a pre-existing condition. This might be something to consider for current pet owners and for the future when they might be looking to adopt a new pet.

    Lastly, another way to go is to foster to help rescues pull more pets from shelters. Or foster to adopt from a rescue. It’s a great way to find out if an animal is a good fit for you and your family. A reputable rescue will always want the pet they place returned to them if the adopters are not able to take care of this pet or become deceased, unless you have a friend or family member who will take your beloved family member.

  19. I’m 64 and have had German Shorthaired Pointers for 35+ years. At one time I had 6! Now I have one 11 year old and I adopted a pittie mix from a municipal shelter 9 years ago who is now 9.5 years old. I have always had a Pet Trust in my estate plan which outlines care for my dogs and provides funds for the named caretaker. This gives me peace of mind. Nevertheless, when my two pass away, my plan is to foster senior or hospice GSPs through a breed rescue that will retain ownership and pay vet bills. This way, if I become incapacitated or die, the rescue can be there to help care for them when I can I longer.

  20. Great article. At ages 76 and 72, my husband and I adopted a retired show dog at his age of 7 1/2 when our 15 1/2 year old dog died. We now have a family of two large retriever cousins only 4 months apart in age. I did not think we’d have two large dogs in our 70s, but I think one has to look at the dog’s energy level and these two are sofa slugs in the house, while still enjoying their outings. One just achieved her RE and I am working on RA with the other. Both are calm and gentle with small grandchildren, despite their size differences.

    Even small dogs, when young, can be a lot for older people to manage, as a Schipperke rescue person advised us a few years ago. Her observations were confirmed when we dog sat a rat terrier puppy and found her in our kitchen sink, licking dirty dishes. Happily our big dog kept her tired out.
    We co-own our retired show dog and should anything happen to us, he will go back to his breeder, as I would hope our other dog would, in the event no one in our family is able to take them.

  21. As a rescue coordinator for an active sporting breed, we get many applicants in their 70’s and up that want to adopt a young dog. I try to make an analogy that our bodies are like our cars. When there are a lot of miles on the car, it is more prone to things going wrong suddenly.

  22. I have always had a plan for my dogs in the event of my untimely passing. Young people die too. I currently have 2 3yr old dogs. I know my Pyrenees mix will probably pass before the pitbull. If all goes well, I will be in my mid 70’s when these 2 pass. I have plans to ONLY foster at that point. I hope that I will still have much to give to dogs and so many dogs are in need. I feel it would be beneficial to all involved. The rescue would have someone who was home all day with the dog. I would have the benefit of a companion and if anything happened to me, the rescue would be there for the pup. Seniors have love and time to give. They should be encouraged to foster and think twice about adopting. I think it’s an all around winning solution.

  23. Hello All;
    I think adopting dogs to younger families is over-rated….parents have jobs, kids go to school…who Really is taking care of the dog? And when, and for how long in the day? Senior adoptive pet parents have time to spend with the pet, Want to spend time with the pet, are often the pet’s true best friend. Yes, arrangements should be made for who will take and care for the pet in the unfortunate situation of a senior pet parent’s demise…but my argument goes for senior pet parents being excellent BFFs for a dog. And yes, the age of the person, and appropriateness of size and age of dog should also go into consideration.

  24. Nancy, you are preaching to the choir and thank you for doing so.

    My husband and I have had dogs for 25+ years. We are now retired and dogless. Why you ask? Because we have no children to take a dog if something happens to us, and none of the nieces and nephews have volunteered. We have always rescued the “hard to place” dogs with the promise that our home is their forever home. We will not send a dog back to a rescue or shelter. (Our choice, I know.)

    At age 80, our neighbor, Violet, found a “breeder” in Minnesota who would sell her two Shetland Sheepdogs. Like the mantra of several of the above posts, Violet had always had Shelties and she wanted a puppy, not an adult or senior. Neither of her sons were in a position to take the “girls” if something happened to Violet. She approached us, and being the soft touches that we are, we said yes. Violet lived to be 90; we “inherited” two 10-year-old sweethearts whose genetics were terrible. We had the means to care for them and keep them comfortable. I truly wanted to find the “breeder” in Minnesota and give him/her a piece of my mind for the poor breeding and the lack of contract.

    It is a discussion I have had with friends who have gotten puppies, and most times, a plan is in place–hooray! I used to work at a veterinary practice, and it was a discussion we had often with clients who adopted birds. The likelihood is very good of that Macaw or African Grey outliving you–what are your plans for this bird, especially since most of the parrots bond to one person. Eye opening to say the least.